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A curious gay man posed this question online: “How common is fingering as prep for anal sex?” He then explained, “I’ve read some explicit gay fan fiction and most of the time they have the top inserting one, two, even three fingers inside the bottom as preparation for anal sex, even scissoring. Is this common practice when having male to male sex?”

One man responded, “I used to make guys finger me to warm me up, but now I just do it myself. I prefer doing it myself beforehand and I think most guys prefer it that way as well. Fingers aren’t really the most comfortable, I find.”

In addition, another man replied, “It’s very common. The issue I hear about is that a number of guys want to jackhammer their fingers. Then they think ‘good enough’ and try to go right to banging when that’s not necessarily what a guy wants or needs to get relaxed enough for it. For the love of god- Foreplay! Tease and kiss and eat that booty (if that’s on the table).”

Meanwhile, a guy confessed, “I prefer getting rimmed. I hate fingers in my ass as I am afraid nails will tear something.” He added, “That said, before rimming was a thing (I’m older), I did a lot of gentle finger play down there. I often marveled at the things I could feel — the prostate, the intestine, rectal muscles… I did fisting twice and could feel a lot more and my main interest wasn’t sexual but medical curiosity. So yes, fingering can be a thing if you like it, if the guy knows what he is doing, but I prefer a tongue now…”

If you are new to anal sex or anal play like the OP above, you might want to consider reading these tips here and here. Among many other things, they advised readers to make sure to clean down there, prepare some lubes and condoms, and make sure that your sex toys are safe for anal sex.

This brings us to our question, how do you prepare for anal sex, guys? Do you enjoy anal fingering? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below!         

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