Adam4Adam's Blog World's best free gay dating and hookup site 2018-06-19T13:29:23Z https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/feed/atom/ https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/cropped-logo-150x150.png Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Mental Health: Call a Hotline for Help]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16990 2018-06-19T13:29:23Z 2018-06-19T13:15:59Z Last week, the world was left stunned by the news that American fashion designer and businesswoman Kate Spade was found..]]>

Last week, the world was left stunned by the news that American fashion designer and businesswoman Kate Spade was found dead in an apparent suicide. She was 55. Three days later it was American celebrity chef, author, and television personality Anthony Bourdain; he was 61.

There was a flurry of questions—mostly why, why, why. Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain didn’t fit the bill, they say. Because both of them had it all: they were talented, rich, and famous; they were at the height of their career, beloved by their fans all over the world. But unknown to many, they were also both battling struggles within themselves, both suffering from depression.

What the Numbers Say

Troubling statistics say 123 Americans commit suicide daily and that “millions more consider, plan, and attempt to kill themselves.” Moreover, according to a report recently released by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), suicide is the leading cause of death in the US. Further, CDC’s report titled “Suicide Rising Across the US,” says:

  • suicide rates are over 30% higher in half of states since 1999.
  • in 2016, almost 45,000 lives were lost to suicide.
  • more than half of people (54%) who died by suicide did not have a known mental health condition.

On top of these, studies show that suicide rates are higher in the LGBT community. According to this article, “gay and bisexual men are four times more likely to attempt suicide in their lifetime than heterosexual men.” All the more so in the case of the LGB youth (almost five times as likely) and transgender adults (40% of them reportedly made a suicide attempt).

The Signs

CDC says there are 12 suicide warning signs:

  • Feeling like a burden
  • Withdrawal and isolation from family and friends
  • Increased anxiety
  • Feeling trapped or in unbearable pain
  • Increased substance use
  • Looking for a way to access lethal means
  • Increased anger or rage
  • Extreme mood swings
  • Expressing hopelessness
  • Sleeping too little or too much
  • Talking or posting about wanting to die
  • Making plans for suicide

What We Can Do

According to CDC, here is what we can do for our loved one:

  • Ask someone you are worried about if they’re thinking about suicide.
  • Keep them safe. Reduce access to lethal means for those at risk.
  • Be there with them. Listen to what they need.
  • Help them connect with ongoing support like the Lifeline (1-800-273-8255).
  • Follow up to see how they’re doing.
  • Find out how this can save a life by visiting: www.bethe1to.com.

Moreover, some experts offered tips on what to do when our loved one is severely depressed and contemplating suicide. Take a look at the article here.

Where to Get Help

Are you having suicidal thoughts? Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or contact the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741741. You may also click here or go to SpeakingOfSuicide.com/resources for options and more resources.

The suicide action phone numbers for other countries are:

US – Trans Lifeline: 877-565-8860 Available 24/7

For the LGBT youth under 24, call TrevorLifeline—a crisis intervention and suicide prevention phone service available 24/7 at 1-866-488-7386

TrevorText—Text “Trevor” to 1-202-304-1200. Standard text messaging rates apply. Available Monday through Friday between 3pm–10pm EST / Noon–7pm PT.

Canada – Trans Lifeline: (877) 330-6366 Available 24/7

Helpline 1: 604-872-3311 (Greater Vancouver)

Helpline 2: 18666613311 (Toll free-Howe Sound/Sunshine Coast)

Helpline 3: 1-866-872-0113 (TTY)

Helpline 4: 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433) (BC-wide)

Website: WWW.CRISISCENTRE.BC.CA

Mental Health Crisis Line 1-866-996-0991 (Ottawa and Eastern Ontario)

Mental Help Health Line 1-866-531-2600 (Ontario)

Association québécoise de prévention du suicide: 1-866-APPELLE (1-866-277-3553)

Also, check out http://suicideprevention.ca/ for educational materials and resources. You can also find local crisis centers through this link: http://suicideprevention.ca/need-help/

Australia – For crisis or suicide prevention support for LGBTQI in Australia, please call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or visit www.lifeline.org.au/gethelp. Click here for other support services within Australia.

Singapore – Oogachaga Hotline – 6226 2002 (Tue to Thu 7pm to 10pm and Sat 2pm to 5pm)

Oogachaga WhatsApp – 8592 0609 (Tue to Thu 7pm to 10pm and Sat 2pm to 5pm)

Oogachaga face to face counselling – make an appointment

Samaritans of Singapore (SOS) 24-hour suicide prevention hotline – 1800 221 4444

Philippines – Natasha Goulbourn Foundation (632) 804-HOPE (4673) and 0917-558-HOPE (4673)

2919 (toll-free number for all GLOBE and TM subscribers)

India – For various suicide hotlines in general, call here. For the LGBT community, call Sahaay Helpline 1800-2000-113 for free for counseling on “HIV/AIDS, STI, general health issues, and any psycho social and legal issues related to MSM and transgender individuals.

Indonesia – NGO Jangan Bunuh Diri

Email: janganbunuhdiri@yahoo.com

phone: 021 9696 9293

Into the light

Email:  pendampingan_itl@yahoo.com

Facebook:  http://www.facebook.com/intothelightid

Twitter:  http://www.twitter.com/intothelightid

For the other Asian countries, click here.

 France –  SOS Help

Boite Postale 43,

Cedex 92101

Boulogne

Contact by: – Phone

Hotline: 01 46 21 46 46

Website: soshelpline.org

Hours: Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat, Sun: 15:00 – 23:00

Suicide Ecoute 

Paris

Contact by: – Phone

Hotline: 01 45 39 40 00

Website: suicide.ecoute.free.fr

Hours: Mon, Tues, Wed, Thurs, Fri, Sat, Sun: 00:00 – 23:00

E.P.E. idF. Fil Sante Jeunes 

Paris

Hotline: 0800 235 236

Website: filsantejeunes.com

Fédération S.O.S Amitié France

11, rue des Immeubles industriels 75011 Paris

Contact by: – Phone

Hotline: (+33) (0)1 40 09 15 22

Website: sos-amitie.com

UK – Samaritans UK & ROI

National

Contact by: Face to Face – Phone – Letter: – E-mail:

Hotline: +44 (0) 8457 90 90 90 (UK – local rate)

Hotline: +44 (0) 8457 90 91 92 (UK minicom)

Hotline: 1850 60 90 90 (ROI – local rate)

Hotline: 1850 60 90 91 (ROI minicom)

Website: samaritans.org

E-mail Helpline: jo@samaritans.org

24 Hour service

Russia – to talk to a psychologist at the Russian LGBT Network, you may call their hotline for LGBT at 8-800-555-08-68 from Monday through Friday, 8-12PM. It is available 24 hours a day during the weekends. Simply ask the operator for an appointment for a phone consultation with a psychologist and you will be given several options.

For the other crisis centers in various countries in Europe, click here.

South Africa – For the LGBT Community: call The Triangle Project (021) 712 6699 daily from 13:00 to 21:00 or call OUT at 0860 688 688, the line is available from Monday to Friday from 8:30 to 16:30.

For other Adam4Adam members and readers from other parts of the world not mentioned above, you may click this, this, and this.

Lastly, have you, or a family member or a friend ever been in crisis before? How did you guys cope with it? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Sex Toys: Celebrate Pride With Free Toys!]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16982 2018-06-19T13:19:00Z 2018-06-18T16:07:09Z This Pride Month, there’s probably quite a number of public celebrations you’ve been to or are planning to go to...]]>

This Pride Month, there’s probably quite a number of public celebrations you’ve been to or are planning to go to. But if you’re planning on some private celebrations for this Pride Month, we definitely have the toys for you.

Two free sex toys are available to Adam4Adam blog readers this Pride Month: the Duplex Silicone Anal Plug Set and the Epic Triple Stim Anal Plug and Cock Ring.

The Duplex Silicon Anal Plug Set is a set of butt plugs that offers two satisfying sensations. Both the short, fat plug and the long, narrow one have tapered tips that make them great for insertion, while the ridges at the bottom of the bulbs will be sure to give you a memorable sensation.

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These sex toys are available July 1 or until supplies run out.

Happy Pride Month everyone!!!!

 

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Watch This: Christina Aguilera Busks in NYC Subway]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16975 2018-06-16T14:56:48Z 2018-06-16T14:55:17Z (Photo Credits: Screengrab from The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon YouTube) Hey guys! Christina Aguilera was spotted busking in a..]]>

(Photo Credits: Screengrab from The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon YouTube)

Hey guys! Christina Aguilera was spotted busking in a New York City subway station with Jimmy Fallon. They were both wearing a disguise; the duo donned wigs and hats and they even wore matching dark glasses!

However, while some NYC commuters were clearly and pleasantly surprised when Fallon introduced Aguilera, there were several fans who commented on the video posted online that the disguise was useless. Some fans said would recognize Aguilera’s voice anytime anywhere just by hearing her sing the very first few notes. They say it’s because she’s got a distinctive voice and that nobody in this world has her kind of “big voice.” True that. Well, whatever the case is—whether the disguise worked or it didn’t—it is evident just by looking at the audience’s smiling faces that they enjoyed Christina Aguilera and Jimmy Fallon’s performance. Watch them below as they nailed Aretha Franklin’s Think (1968). They later performed Aguilera’s very own song titled Fighter (2002).

Anyway, Aguilera has a new album out yesterday called Liberation. Rolling Stone called Liberation “excellent, and raw and moving.” They said Xtina is “at her peak,” and that she is “hands down, one of the greatest vocalists of her generation.”

Do you agree? Are you a Christina Aguilera fan? Here are some of my favorite Christina Aguilera songs: Beautiful (2002), Lady Marmalade (2001), The Voice Within (2002), Reflection (1998), Nobody Wants to be Lonely (2001), and Hurt (2006) to name a few. What about you, guys? Share with us your thoughts and your favorite Christina Aguilera songs in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Survey: What is Better Than Sex?]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16970 2018-06-15T15:58:46Z 2018-06-15T15:57:05Z (Photo Credits: MEN – Save 50% Today) We have a quick question for you, guys. What, for you, is possibly..]]>

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We have a quick question for you, guys. What, for you, is possibly better or more addictive than sex? Some of us might say it is ice cream, chocolates, or kisses; but for others it is their smartphones?

Well, it wasn’t exactly phrased that way but it does seem like it. According to a study titled The Attachment Problem: Cellphone Use in America which was conducted by SureCall, 10% of their respondents admitted to checking their mobile phones while in the middle of having sex.

Perhaps the sex was really bad that they felt checking their smartphones is far more worthy of their time? Either that or they just really have a huge emotional attachment to their smartphones but whatever the case is, you can read the rest of the study which was conducted online here. SureCall is a company that specializes in the “design and manufacture of cell phone signal boosters, amplifiers, and accessories” by the way and they surveyed a total of 1,137 people aged 18 and above in the United States.

Further, their study showed that 43% of the people who used their mobile phones during sex are more likely to do it again at least 2 to 10 times in a year. Perhaps age plays a factor? The survey revealed that the younger the respondents are, particularly those aged 18 – 34, the more they are likely to do it; twice as likely in fact, than the respondents aged 35 – 51.

Anyway, it isn’t just during sex, guys. The respondents also admitted to using their smartphones in the shower (22%) and while they were in the toilet (69%).

As for me, I never use my smartphone while in the shower or toilet and most certainly not while having sex. But what about you, guys? How attached are you to your smartphone? Moreover, have you ever had to stop in the middle of having sex? Why? Also, what for you, is better than sex? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Hot or Not: Hairy Armpits]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16965 2018-06-14T15:53:56Z 2018-06-14T15:53:56Z (Photo Credits: Sean Cody) What do you think about hairy armpits, guys? Do you find it hot or not? Why..]]>

(Photo Credits: Sean Cody)

What do you think about hairy armpits, guys? Do you find it hot or not? Why or why not?

Other gay men admit to getting really horny at the sight of hairy armpits while for others it’s a complete turn off. Some say they prefer hairy armpits because for them it’s a “symbol of masculinity.” In addition, they think it’s odd for a man to shave his armpits. Other gay men on the other hand, say hairy armpits turn them on because “natural look is hot while shaved is not” which goes to show how different we all are. I mean if we all want the same thing then life will be boring.

That being said, I personally find trimmed pits hot. For me, trimmed pits are sexy and aesthetically pleasing not to mention it feels cleaner and fresh smelling. As for pits with long, bushy hair, well, that’s what the guy prefers so it’s cool, those are his pits after all. Whether people shave, trim, or not I’m fine with that as long as I don’t see or smell something foul (which can happen whether the pits are shaved or not mind you, but shaving or trimming does help control underarm odor).

Anyway, online threads and some studies show that most men of today prefer to trim or shave their armpits either for aesthetic or athletic reasons while at least 10% to 22% prefer the au naturel look. But that’s them, what about you, guys? Do you get horny too whenever you see a hairy armpit? Share with us your thoughts and hairy armpit stories in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Equality: What Do You Think Of This New Pride Flag?]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16959 2018-06-13T15:37:58Z 2018-06-13T15:37:58Z Image Credit: Daniel Quasar Kickstarter Over the years, the Pride flag has undergone a number of transformations. The first Pride..]]>

Image Credit: Daniel Quasar Kickstarter

Over the years, the Pride flag has undergone a number of transformations. The first Pride flag designed by Gilbert Baker in 1978 originally had eight colors, with a meaning attached to each color.

After Harvey Milk’s assassination in November 1978, demand for the rainbow flag increased, and Baker had to drop the hot pink stripe to keep up with the demand. By 1979, the turquoise stripe was also discarded, resulting in the six-stripe version — red, orange, yellow, green, blue, and violet.

Last year, the Philadelphia City Hall version of the Pride flag had black and brown stripes added to it to represent black LGBTQ people. Outside of the United States, the Love Fest in Sao Paulo revealed a Pride flag that had nine colors.

Most recently, a designer in Oregon has come up with a new design for the rainbow flag. Daniel Quasar, who prefers xe/xem/xyr pronouns, proposed a rainbow flag that puts white, pink, light blue, brown, and black stripes in an arrow over the more recognizable six-striped rainbow flag.

According to Quasar, the light blue, pink, and white stripes come from the transgender flag. The brown and black stripes represent people of color and those who live with AIDS, those who have died of it, and the stigma that surrounds them.

Quasar has been raising funds for the flag on KickStarter, with a goal of $14,000 to produce nylon flags that are three feet wide and five feet long. As of this writing, the KickStarter has raised $17,386.

What we want to hear from our Adam4Adam blog readers is if this flag is something that they’ll support. Do you agree that it’s a more inclusive flag? Or do you think that the current rainbow flag is fine as it is? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Speak Out: Awkward Place to Have a Boner]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16951 2018-06-12T15:02:39Z 2018-06-12T14:02:50Z It’s safe to say that all of us have an awkward boner experience to share. It’s probably happened to the..]]>

It’s safe to say that all of us have an awkward boner experience to share. It’s probably happened to the best of us, as it’s something that we can’t control. The question is where were you when you had an unwanted erection and what did you do in order to hide it? More importantly, did you succeed in hiding your raging boner or did anybody notice?

There’s so many places where you could get a boner. You could get one in the gym, when you’re exercising and looking at all the bodies around you. You’re probably wearing a pair of sweatpants that make your erection extremely noticeable. Even worse, you could get one while you’re in the shower surrounded by other men, and there’s no hiding there.

Maybe you were out having a good time with your buddies from college and this guy whom you’ve had a long-term crush flirted or talked with you? Or maybe you smell him and then unfortunately, without warning, you popped a boner for everyone else to see.

Perhaps you’re in the changing room in the mall, and you think of all the naughty things you can get up to with the right guy while in that small space. Now you’re stuck there while you wait for your erection to deflate.

What if you’re doing a presentation and your mind wanders to that hot hook-up you had last night, or you catch the eye of your office crush and his body language is quite plainly telling you that he’s down to have sex if you are — maybe even right here in the office. Have you ever popped a boner when you’re the center of this much attention?

Anyway, any awkward boner stories to share, guys? How did you get out of that hard situation? Did you pretend not to notice? Scramble for cover? What? Share with us your boner stories in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Speak Out: Living the American Gay Dream]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16945 2018-06-11T16:12:33Z 2018-06-11T16:12:33Z (Photo Credits: Sean Cody) In our previous articles, some of us admitted that they are the fuck and go type...]]>

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In our previous articles, some of us admitted that they are the fuck and go type. But what about those at the other end of the spectrum, are there any Adam4Adam members who prefer the “American Gay Dream” You know, the whole nine yards: a loving husband, a nice job, a nice car, a large house with a white picket fence, maybe two or three kids, and a dog.

We are asking because we stumbled upon a particular thread online where the original poster (OP) said that gay men never do or want to settle down. Personally, I think that our wants and needs change as time goes by. Maybe we sleep around while we are young, but there comes a point in our life where we realize we have changed, that we are now tired of playing the field.

When that happens, it’s when we crave for something more: we want to find love, we want commitment, to settle down even. You know, like Matt Bomer and Simon Halls, Tom Daley and Dustin Lance Black, and Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka to name a few. In real life, I know three gay couples who have been together for years and two of them have a child as well. They are these run-of-the-mill sorts of guys: the first one is a young couple in their early 30s; they’re both entrepreneurs and they have an adopted son, now 6 years old. The other is in their 50s, both high school teachers (the other is a school principal), they don’t have kids but they’ve been together for around 30 years. The third couple on the other hand, is in their 60s (one of them is a dermatologist, the other an office worker) with an adopted daughter who is now in her early 20s.

Anyway, what about you guys? Do you see yourself as a family man? Are you the type who will settle down once the right guy comes along or are you the lone wolf type? Why or why not? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.

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