Adam4Adam's Blog World's best free gay dating and hookup site 2017-10-23T13:19:06Z https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/feed/atom/ https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/cropped-logo-150x150.png Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Speak Out : #MeToo and Sexual Abuse In The Gay Community]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=15714 2017-10-23T13:19:06Z 2017-10-23T13:19:06Z Over the past couple of weeks,  social media was flooded by the viral hashtag #MeToo. All over the world, women..]]>

Over the past couple of weeks,  social media was flooded by the viral hashtag #MeToo. All over the world, women used the hashtag to share their own experiences of being sexually harassed and assaulted. Reading through the stories is a heart-wrenching exercise, and is sure to drive home the immensity of the situation.

Because it came in the wake of the Harvey Weinstein scandal, #MeToo rightly focused on stories of harassment and abuse directed at women. That said, harassment and abuse is not unheard of in the gay community.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s (CDC) National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence survey, 26 percent of gay men and 37 percent of bisexual men experience rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner, compared to 29 percent of heterosexual men. Meanwhile, 40 percent of gay men and 47 percent of bisexual men have experienced sexual violence other than rape, compared to 21 percent of heterosexual men.

There are a number of things that make it difficult for gay and bisexual men to come out and talk about their experiences, aside from the shame that surrounds assault. Another factor is how we as a community are much more forward when it comes to sex than straight people may be. In gay clubs, wandering hands touching parts of your body is an accepted thing. Flirting between gay guys can involve language much stronger than straight people are used to, and it may prove difficult for some people to realize that they’ve already crossed a line.

If you or someone you know is a victim of rape or assault, call the 24/7 National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673.

We want to ask you guys where you draw the line between flirting and harassment. What are the hard rules that you abide by, whether you’re the one being flirted with or the one flirting? How have you protected yourself from harassment? What have you done when it’s been made clear to you that the person you’re talking with feels harassed rather than flirted with? Share your thoughts with us in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Survey: Would You Have MMF Threesome with a Male Friend?]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=15711 2017-10-22T02:26:07Z 2017-10-22T02:26:07Z Photo Credits: Icon Male – Save 75%  A study in the UK says that bromance is on the rise among young..]]>

Photo Credits: Icon Male – Save 75% 

A study in the UK says that bromance is on the rise among young men and these straight males’ idea of bonding? Well, it’s having threesome with a woman.

Granted, the sample of the study was only 30 male students but at least 10 of them were found to have done threesome (MMF, FFM) with six of them admitting they did it more than once. In addition, the study found that five respondents had at least experienced MMF once. However, the study also revealed that “there was little interaction” between the men during their sexual encounter.

The author of the study, Dr. Ryan Scoats, a sociologist at Birmingham City University, posited that it is the “rise of the ‘bromance’ and decline in homophobia in western societies” that has helped “make MMF threesomes more acceptable.”

It would seem that bromance is indeed on the rise (Bromance, by the way, is defined as a “platonic or nonsexual friendship between two men, usually two heterosexual men, likened to a romantic relationship). This theory is supported by a separate study at the University of Winchester which says that straight young men “get more emotional satisfaction out of bromances than they do out of their romantic relationships with women.”

Another study published in Sex Roles: A Journal of Research said that men in bromance are not reluctant to share hugs and kisses. The author of the study, Adam White, suggested that bromance of this kind is “probably more than best friend status and more like a brotherly love.”

That being said, we asked you earlier this month whether or not you would be willing to have sex with a straight-curious friend. Some of you said yes while others, who didn’t want to complicate their relationship with their straight male friends, said no. But what about having a threesome with him but with a woman? Would you consider doing it? Would you be willing to share your friend with a woman if it meant finally being able to sleep with him?

Perhaps you already did in which case please share with us your thoughts and MMF threesome stories in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Fantasy: Anonymous Sexual Encounters]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=15705 2017-10-20T16:43:34Z 2017-10-20T16:43:34Z Photo Credits: Next Door Studios  Hey, guys! Anonymous sex—how do you really feel about it? Do you love it? Why..]]>

Photo Credits: Next Door Studios 

Hey, guys! Anonymous sex—how do you really feel about it? Do you love it? Why or why not? Do you find it hot or not? Do you fantasize about it a lot but you’ve never acted on that fantasy? Whyever not?

PsychCentral says that the psychology behind the fantasy is the enjoyment of the “feeling of being a sexual object and/or using others as sexual objects – without strings” brings. The site added that it is the “commitment that only lasts for as long as the sex act itself” that attracted people to anonymous sex. PsychCentral further explained this is “especially true for those already in committed or marital relationships,” people who are “seeking quick and easy sex on the down-low.”

Are these things true for you?

Whatever the case is, we’d like to emphasize the importance of safety be it from violence or about our health, or even our privacy. Whether or not you have already tried anonymous sex in the past or maybe you’re contemplating to do so in the future, it pays to always read and bear in mind A4A’s Safety Tips which you can read here.

That being said, we’d like to know how you truly feel about anonymous sex encounters. Do you fantasize about it a lot? What is it that you find hot about it? Have you ever acted on your fantasies or do you like to err on the side of caution instead? Share your thoughts and stories with us in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Sex Toys: Your Gifts For October]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=15701 2017-10-20T16:43:48Z 2017-10-19T13:59:47Z Halloween is just around the corner, and what better way to welcome it than with free gifts from the Adam4Adam..]]>

Halloween is just around the corner, and what better way to welcome it than with free gifts from the Adam4Adam store? This month, it’s all about training as our gifts wouldn’t be out of place in any dominant’s arsenal of toys.

First up is the Strict Leather Premium Fur Lined Locking Collar. Made with comfort and durability in mind, this premium fur lined collar is extremely comfortable to wear but also able to withstand any “unruly” behavior. It’s 2″ wide leather collar is reinforced with a 1″ wide lockable leather strap, so you know it won’t just snap.

It usually costs $48, but you can get it free by following these steps:

1. Add it to your cart

2. Add $48 or more worth of any other products.

3. Enter coupon: A4ACOLLARED2017 at checkout.

Next is the 4 Piece Silicone Anal Kit. This four piece set is perfect for bottoms training themselves for bigger dicks, or for dominants looking to expand their submissive’s hole. It includes an enema bulb that helps you clean yourself up. There’s a 7-inch beaded anal wand that you can use to loosen your hole, and a 5-inch tapered anal plug that you can keep up in you throughout the day. Finally, there’s a bullet vibrator that’ll dive you crazy.

While this usually retails at $49.95, you can get this set for free by following these steps:

1. Add it to your cart

2. Add $39 or more worth of any other products.

3. Enter coupon: A4AANALPREP2017 at checkout.

Both offers are until November 10 or until supplies last.

Quick, get them now before everybody else does!

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Hot or Not: Jason Momoa]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=15694 2017-10-18T14:11:00Z 2017-10-18T14:03:14Z Photo Credits: Gage Skidmore [CC BY-SA 2.0], via Wikimedia Commons How do you find Jason Momoa, guys? Do you think..]]>

Photo Credits: Gage Skidmore [CC BY-SA 2.0], via Wikimedia Commons

How do you find Jason Momoa, guys? Do you think he’s hot or not?

I personally think he’s hot. He was such an eye candy in Baywatch (1999) as Jason Ioane, a “pretty boy” if you may, but as Khal Drogo in the Game of Thrones (2011) he was iconic, notable, and a badass. It must be the scars on his face, his towering height (he stands 6’4″), deep voice, facial hair, and his strong facial structure per se on top of that long hair of his. Whatever the case is, Jason Momoa’s role as the most powerful warlord of the Dothraki tribe was unforgettable as was the unfortunate, insensitive, and distasteful rape joke he made way back in 2011 about this very same character. For which he has since then apologized, by the way.

If you have no idea what the uproar was about, he cracked a joke during Comic-Con while at the Game of Thrones panel. The clip from said convention resurfaced over at Twitter in the wake of the sexual assault allegations against Harvey Weinstein in Hollywood. He was quoted as saying, “As far as sci-fi and fantasy, I love that genre because there are so many things you can do, like rip someone’s tongue out of their throat and get away with it, and rape beautiful women.”

 

Below is the apology he issued on the matter:

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Anyway, Momoa has an upcoming movie titled Justice League (2017) where he stars as Arthur Curry also known as the Aquaman. Check him out below.

So, what do you think of Jason Momoa, guys? Is he hot or not?

Want more of Jason Momoa? Check out his Instagram account here. Also, don’t forget to follow our Facebook account, Twitter, and A4A Instagram account for more hotties like Jason!

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[News: Chechnya Gay Purge Victim Comes Forward]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=15690 2017-10-17T15:52:00Z 2017-10-17T15:52:00Z Photo Credits: Screengrab from Novaya Gazeta YouTube For the first time since reports on ‘gay purge’ in Chechnya had surfaced,..]]>

Photo Credits: Screengrab from Novaya Gazeta YouTube

For the first time since reports on ‘gay purge’ in Chechnya had surfaced, one of the victims—a man named Maxim Lapunov—had agreed to come forward and speak in front of the camera about his personal ordeal.

Mr. Lapunov, 30, described how he was held for 12 days in a “blood-soaked cell” beaten with sticks, and forced to name other gay men. “They burst in every 10 or 15 minutes shouting that I was gay and they would kill me,” he said in front of a small crowd of human rights activists in a Moscow convention.

“Then they beat me with a stick for a long time: in the legs, ribs, buttocks and back. When I started to fall, they pulled me up and carried on,” Mr. Lapunov added.

“Every day they assured me they would kill me, and told me how.” The reason they gave him for torturing him, Mr. Lapunov said, was that he was a “Russian who came to Chechnya and ‘spoiled’ Chechens.”

Mr. Lapunov is the first to make a public statement such as this one—with his face and name known to everyone—because the other Chechen LGBT victims were afraid of the grave repercussions their family might face should they speak out.

The importance of his coming forward was underscored by the activists. “The authorities’ excuse was that no victims had made statements,” said Tanya Lokshina of Human Rights Watch. “Now they have one, but there’s no investigation. There is a lack of political will.”

Mr. Lapunov was originally from Siberia who reportedly moved to Chechnya. He had been staying there and working for two years when, on March 16, 2017, he was allegedly abducted by “two men he didn’t know.”

Unfortunately, ‘gay purge’ seems to have become the norm in other countries as well. There have been massive arrests of gay and transgender people in countries such as Indonesia, Azerbaijan, Nigeria, Tanzania (in Zanzibar), and Egypt this year.

Thoughts? Share it with us in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Watch This: Peen Slip While on a Road Trip]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=15686 2017-10-16T17:12:53Z 2017-10-16T17:12:53Z Photo Credits: Screengrab from Tumblr Hey, guys! Do you love going on road trips with family or friends? Maybe with..]]>

Photo Credits: Screengrab from Tumblr

Hey, guys! Do you love going on road trips with family or friends? Maybe with lovers or your regular fuck buddies?

I do. I think it’s awesome and yes, I have gone on a few in the past with friends and those were mostly spontaneous (it adds to fun). I love taking in the scenery around us as we drive along, season notwithstanding. There’s just something about looking at nature while being on the road that relaxes me. Perhaps it’s as John Green said, “That’s why I love road trips, dude. It’s like doing something without actually doing anything.”

And the only thing that’s better than going on a road trip? A cup of coffee and ahem… seeing an erect cock while on a road trip. Lol.

This guy—who seemed to be in a road trip with friends—was enjoying his coffee while looking out the window, engrossed, reveling in nature’s beauty. He opted to ignore his cackling friends in favor of the scenery (I would have done the same, to be honest) which was a really bad idea because apparently he was having an accidental peen slip. Unfortunately, or fortunately, however way you see it, somebody captured the moment on video which you can find below.

http://leoshaun.tumblr.com/post/158749418669

Have you ever had an accidental peen slip, guys? How did that go for you?

Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Gay Stuff: How Would You Update The Hanky Code?]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=15681 2017-10-15T15:21:37Z 2017-10-15T15:21:37Z For gay men of a certain age, the hanky code is definitely something they’re familiar with. It’s a color-coded system..]]>

For gay men of a certain age, the hanky code is definitely something they’re familiar with. It’s a color-coded system widely used during the 70s by gay and bisexual men to indicate whether they were a top or a bottom, their preferred sexual fetish, and what kind of sex they’re seeking.

While there are a lot of lists online that have elaborate explanations as to which hanky color stands for what, the generally accepted list comes from Larry Townsend’s The Leatherman’s Handbook II. A hanky in your left pocket means you’re the top or the dominant. Meanwhile, a hanky in your right pocket means you’re the bottom or the submissive.

In the book, the colors were also assigned the following meanings: black for S&M, dark blue for anal sex, light blue for oral sex, brown for scat, green for hustlers or prostitutes, grey for bondage, orange for anything goes, purple for piercing, red for fisting, and yellow for watersports.

of course, it’s been decades since the hanky code’s been in use. Over the years, the gay sexual landscape has changed drastically, especially with the AIDS epidemic of the 80s. Even cruising like they used to back in the 70s has changed, what with the emergence of dating sites and apps.

There’s an inherent excitement to cruising out in the open, as well as to knowing a code the mainstream isn’t aware of. If you were to bring the hanky code back in style, how would you update it?

For instance, what hanky would you use if you were a top only looking for safe sex? How would you signal that you’re a bottom looking for outdoor sex? What hanky would be appropriate to show that you’re a top looking for group sex?

We know you’re all a creative bunch here on Adam4Adam, so we want to hear all your suggestions. Share your thoughts with us in the comments section below!

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