Adam4Adam's Blog World's best free gay dating and hookup site 2018-01-22T22:30:49Z https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/feed/atom/ https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/cropped-logo-150x150.png Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Health: How is Your Mental Health?]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16194 2018-01-22T22:30:49Z 2018-01-22T22:30:01Z The past few weeks has seen Brian McCook, more popularly known as RuPaul’s Drag Race alim Katya Zamolodchikova, grapple publicly..]]>

The past few weeks has seen Brian McCook, more popularly known as RuPaul’s Drag Race alim Katya Zamolodchikova, grapple publicly with the state of his sobriety and mental health. The drag performer recently announced his withdrawal from the drag scene for the entirety of 2018 as he works on maintaining his own mental health.

Of course, McCook is just one of the many members of the LGBTQ community struggling with mental health problems. According to data compiled by The Trevor Project, LGBTQ youth contemplate suicide at almost three times the rate of heterosexual youth. They are also five times more likely to attempt suicide compared to heterosexual youth.

The Trevor Project also notes that a national study showed that 40% of transgender adults have attempted suicide. Ninety-two percent of the transgender adults surveyed also say that they attempted suicide before the age of 25.

The statistics are sobering, and McCook’s situation shows that it’s not just LGBTQ youth who struggle with their mental health. It’s a very real problem that affects members of the LGBTQ community, whatever their age.

What we’d like to know is how all of you Adam4Adam readers maintain your mental health on a daily basis. How do you cope with being in a world that is hostile to LGBTQ people, on top of all the usual stress that comes with day to day life? What advice would you give to young people and other LGBTQ adults going through mental health problems? Share your stories and suggestions in the comments below.

If you or someone you know is in a crisis or needs immediate support, please contact The Trevor Project or It Gets Better.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Dating: Why Do Gay Men Flake Out on Dates?]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16191 2018-01-22T00:55:43Z 2018-01-22T00:11:31Z So, you and this wonderful guy have been chatting online, talking on the phone, and texting for a week and..]]>

So, you and this wonderful guy have been chatting online, talking on the phone, and texting for a week and finally the two of you decided to meet. You both agreed on a particular time, date, and venue. You two even went so far as to plan what you guys will do on your first date: dine on a fancy seafood restaurant, watch a movie, and then hangout at a bar later. Here comes the long-awaited day, you leave the house dressed to the nines so to speak; further, you arrived at the venue a tad too early. You sat in the corner of the café and waited.

Time passes by but you were excited albeit jittery until you realized that wait, he’s been an hour late! Maybe you got the venue wrong so you checked and rechecked. You decided to call him but alas, his number can no longer be reached!

Still, you continue to hope. Perhaps he got the date wrong, maybe he thought it was tomorrow instead of today? Your brain continues to make excuses for him as you sat there, baffled. Is the traffic this afternoon really that bad or, heaven forbid, did he get into an accident? But at the end of the day, he was a no-show and he was never heard from again. His silence says it all, doesn’t it?

I am, obviously, speaking from experience.

The first time this happens, we can probably brush it off. But if it’s happened one too many times, it can certainly do a number on one’s self-confidence. In time I’ve learned to shrug my shoulders and, like during breakups I’d choose to move forward with the thought that another man will come along, hopefully the right one this time.

Why do people flake out though? Some say they simply weren’t interested enough, others say they were still unsure of their sexuality and that apprehension made them back out at the last minute.

Anyway, has this ever happened to you? (Or maybe the right question is how often?) What were the excuses given to you?  Maybe you flaked out at one point, in which case why did you cancel on him? For those who cancel dates often though, why do you do it?

Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Music: Listen to Kylie Minogue’s “Dancing”]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16185 2018-01-20T16:55:53Z 2018-01-20T16:54:13Z (Photo Credits: Screengrab from Kylie Minogue YouTube) Kylie Minogue is back with a new single titled “Dancing.” It’s the first..]]>

(Photo Credits: Screengrab from Kylie Minogue YouTube)

Kylie Minogue is back with a new single titled “Dancing.” It’s the first track to her upcoming album called Golden which is set for release this coming April 6. Golden is her first album since Kylie Christmas which was released way back in 2015.

Of Dancing, Kylie said via her Instagram account, “Lyrically, ‘Dancing’ is really interesting. I guess, on the surface, it is about dancing and going out and having a good fun.” She added, “And it’s also about going out, at the end, and having had a good time. So living life to the fullest, trying to shine whenever you can. I know life is difficult, life presents all sorts of hurdles for us, but we try to dance through that when we can.”

Indeed, Dancing is all about living our life to the fullest and dancing (and maybe fumbling) our way through difficult situations. But the song also speaks about dancing with our loved ones and being there for each other always, through thick and thin, and not just when the situation calls for it.

No one wants to stay at home/Nobody wants to be alone/When you come knocking, I’ll be at your door.

But perhaps my most favorite lines are found on the bridge of the song because it reminds us everybody’s got their own hardships but that we should not let these get us down. That we should use these hardships to push ourselves to be a better person instead, and that we should always do our best no matter what our circumstance in life is.

Everybody’s got a story/Let it be your blaze of glory/Burning bright, never fade away/And when the final curtain falls, we could say we did it all/The never ending of a perfect day

Rolling Stone called the new song “euphoric” while ecstatic fans over at Twitter described it as “pure joy,” “fantastic,” “absolutely wonderful,” and “golden.” Listen to Kylie’s new song below.

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Here is the complete track listing for Golden:

I love Kylie and I’m absolutely looking forward to hearing this new album of hers. My all-time favorite Kylie Minogue album by the way is Fever (2001). What about you? Are you a Kylie Minogue fan?

Anyway, what do you think about Dancing, guys? Share with us your thoughts in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Dating: Bilingualism Sexier Than Having a 6-Pack?]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16179 2018-01-19T15:36:03Z 2018-01-19T15:12:43Z (Photo Credits: Icon Male) A study was conducted in the UK asking its participants if they prefer someone who is..]]>

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A study was conducted in the UK asking its participants if they prefer someone who is bilingual or someone with a 6-pack. The answers might surprise you.

The survey revealed that, 93% of gay and bisexual British women would rather date a bilingual person than date someone with a 6-pack. The figure on the other hand, is higher for the gay and bisexual men at 99%.  Further, the survey revealed that 54% of the respondents speak more than one language: Italian (64%), French (62%), and Spanish (46%). How about you, guys? Do you speak another language apart from English?

When asked which particular accents sound the most attractive to their ears, French emerged as the clear winner at 47%, it was followed by Italian at 45%, and then Irish at 32%. I’m french Canadian guys…and I’m single! (lol) What do you think is the sexiest accent in the world?

For this particular study however, the results clearly indicate that the LGBT community in the UK prefer brains more than brawn.

What about you guys? Do you find men who speak two languages sexy? Or are you more likely to date men who have a 6-pack? What’s your priority? Have you ever dated a man who speaks several languages? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Speak Out: Ever Met A Flirty Straight Guy?]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16172 2018-01-18T15:57:43Z 2018-01-18T15:42:42Z Reality show junkies probably already know this, but for those who aren’t glued to their TV sets, RuPaul’s Drag Race..]]>

Reality show junkies probably already know this, but for those who aren’t glued to their TV sets, RuPaul’s Drag Race alum Courtney Act has been making waves on the United Kingdom’s Celebrity Big Brother.

Courtney Act – Shane Jenek in real life – not only won the audience over with his grasp of LGBTQ and gender issues. He has also won them over because of his great rapport with the other guys in the house, specifically The Apprentice UK star Andrew Brady, who is straight.

In fact, Brady has ingratiated and kept himself in Courtney’s orbit, asking to be made up in drag and even letting Courtney take a look at his tucked penis. Things have quickly escalated between the two, with the two of them sharing a bath, shaving each others legs, and even sharing a quick kiss.

 

While this flirtation may just be for show, we’ve all had that straight friend that’s just a little too flirty and affectionate. Whether we want to admit it or not, that kind of attention can feel really good. Why else would there be a whole genre of porn involving gay men having sex with straight men?

Have any of you ever had that particularly flirty straight friend? Did you ever flirt back? Did it ever go beyond flirtation? Share your stories with us in the comments section below!

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Sex Toys: Your Free Gifts For January]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16165 2018-01-17T15:10:21Z 2018-01-17T15:10:21Z You always want to start the year right, and a free sex toy will definitely put you in a good..]]>

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Start the year right and get these items now!

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Fantasy: Food Play]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16159 2018-01-16T14:59:17Z 2018-01-16T14:57:34Z (Photo Credits: Next Door Studios – Save 75% today) Have you ever seen this in porn scenes before: a man..]]>

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Have you ever seen this in porn scenes before: a man lying naked on the table while several men eat sushi and sashimi off his naked body? What happens after they eat, I’ll leave it to your imagination.

It doesn’t have to be sushi, of course. I only cited it as an example because I love Japanese food, but you can use whipped cream instead or champagne if that’s to your taste. The idea is to use food to blow each other’s minds during foreplay. I mean, don’t you think it’s hot when you and your lover pour champagne on each other’s skin and then lick every drop of it?

I must admit I indulged in the chocolate food play once and the sex was hot! Don’t look at me like that, it happened during Valentine’s Day when chocolate was of abundance that’s why. That being said, has anyone tried food play before, guys? No? Have you maybe fantasized about doing it?

Maybe you’re not convinced that food play can make your sex life extra steamy? Then you might want to reconsider after looking at a photo of Franco Noriega wherein the Peruvian hunky chef is covered in honey and hey, let’s admit it, he does make us want to dig in and lick. Ahem.

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This article though, cautions us to keep the food from “the tip of the penis” as doing so might cause irritation and infection. We are advised to stay away from food we are allergic to as well as from chili peppers or anything that is hot and spicy.

So, what do you think of food play, guys? Have you ever tried it before? Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[News: Cranberries Lead Singer Dolores O’Riordan Dies at 46]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=16155 2018-01-15T21:31:47Z 2018-01-15T21:31:47Z (Photo Credits: Kuan [CC BY 2.0], via Wikimedia Commons) Dolores O’Riordan, the lead singer of the renowned Irish rock band..]]>

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Dolores O’Riordan, the lead singer of the renowned Irish rock band The Cranberries, has died in London this Monday, January 15, 2018. The cause of her death is not yet known. She was 46.

Her passing was confirmed by her band in a public statement released today through their Facebook page, it said, “Irish and international singer Dolores O’Riordan has died suddenly in London today. She was 46 years old. The lead singer with the Irish band The Cranberries was in London for a short recording session. No further details are available at this time.”

I love The Cranberries. They are the band behind the hit songs Zombie (1994,) Linger (1993), Ode to My Family (1994), Dreams (1993), and Free to Decide (1996) to name a few. Their latest album, Something Else, was released last April 28, 2017 but the tour was cancelled on account of O’Riordan’s poor health.

According to Rolling Stone, the Cranberries had sold over 40 million albums worldwide to date.

We leave you with one of their hits titled When You’re Gone.

We’ll miss you, Dolores, now that you’re gone. Thank you for sharing your amazing talent and beautiful voice to the world. May you rest in peace.

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