Adam4Adam's Blog World's best free gay dating and hookup site 2016-09-24T17:33:45Z https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/feed/atom/ https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2016/02/cropped-logo-150x150.png Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[News : DC To Launch Comic Book To Benefit Orlando Victims]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=13221 2016-09-24T17:33:45Z 2016-09-24T17:33:45Z 21comic-orlando-superjumboComic book artists have banded together to give the victims of the June 12 Orlando shooting victims a gift during..

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Comic book artists have banded together to give the victims of the June 12 Orlando shooting victims a gift during the Christmas holidays – a 144-page comic book going on sale on December. The proceeds will go to Equality Florida’s fund for the victims of the Pulse nightclub shooting.

The comic book, entitled “Love Is Love”, will sell for $9.99 and features work from creators like Phil Jimenez of Superwoman, Oliver Coipel of Thor and X-Men. Comedian Patton Oswalt and screenwriter Damon Lindelof will also contribute to the collection.

The whole effort was organized by openly gay artist Marc Andreyko, who told The New York Times that events like Orlando shouldn’t be compartmentalized. They should hurt and we should want to change for the better.

Andreyko also revealed that he had required only one page submissions so as to ensure that the creators he contacted would be able to commit to the project. He was also the one pairing up the writers and artists.

“I was e-Harmony-ing people,” he said. “Mixing and matching and seeing who felt right.”

While DC Comics may be best known for immortalizing the superhero trinity of Superman, Batman, and Wonder Woman in pop culture consciousness, but the publisher is also the home of Midnighter, a gay superhero created in 1998 and named by Comics Alliance as one of the “50 Sexiest Male Characters In Comics”.

Aside from Midnighter, other gay characters in the DC universe include Midnighter’s husband, Apollo; Green Lantern Alan Scott, and Watchmen’s Nelson Gardner. Other prominent LGBT characters include Batgirl, Catwoman, Harley Quinn, and Poison Ivy.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Health : Wentworth Miller For National Suicide Prevention]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=13217 2016-09-23T16:55:18Z 2016-09-23T16:55:18Z wentworth-millerPhoto Credits: Wentworth Miller’s Facebook How do you know a person is suffering from depression? Actor Wentworth Miller teamed up..

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Photo Credits: Wentworth Miller’s Facebook

How do you know a person is suffering from depression?

Actor Wentworth Miller teamed up with The Mighty and created a powerful video for Suicide Prevention Week titled A Day in the Life with Depression that illustrates how it is to live with depression.

Several people in the video appeared asking themselves questions such as: Is this worth it? What’s the point? I’ve failed everyone. I’m so tired. I don’t know what to do. Will I ever be happy? Why can’t you accomplish even simple tasks?

The persistent questions keep on circling round a person’s head, relentless and, seemingly without any form of escape s/he gets tired one day and conclude: I’m so tired. Why bother?

These dangerous thoughts could lead to a dangerous conclusion which is why an understanding on mental illness and how we can help those struggling with depression is important hence the birth of National Suicide Prevention Awareness Month.

Much effort has already been exerted into addressing mental health issues with movements such as Mental Health Awareness Week and National Suicide Prevention Week. However, statistics show there is still much to be done.

In the video shown below, Miller stated that every year depression affects an estimated 15 million people in the United States and 350 million people worldwide.

But depression and suicide affects people from all backgrounds and all ages. The youth, too, especially the LGB youth according to the recent Youth Risk Behavior Study (YRBS) conducted among 9th to 12th graders by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Their results revealed that the rate of suicide attempts is four times greater for LGB youth compared to that of straight youth.

The results of the study further revealed that 43% of the LGB survey participants seriously considered suicide, 38% even formed a suicide plan, and roughly 30% attempted suicide. You can read their full report here.

 

What we can do

Looking at the numbers presented it can be overwhelming. However, we can actually help in our own small way and together we just might be able to move a little closer into understanding mental illness if not put a huge dent to the stigma surrounding mental health crisis.

How?

  1. Through education.

By arming ourselves with information through reading, watching, and attending seminars about mental health, learn more about how to recognize the warning signs of suicide, and know who are at risk. Because education is key to understanding, and it is only through understanding that we can address the issue and overturn the situation. Learn how to reach out and be there for them and in effect make a difference on the life of a person suffering from depression.

The Trevor Project for one, offers CARE Trainings for LGBTQ youth. Read more about it here. The Trevor Project was founded in 1998 by the creators of the Academy Award®-winning short film TREVOR. Today, it is recognized as “the leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) young people ages 13-24.”

If you are in Canada, check out http://suicideprevention.ca/ for educational materials and resources. You can also find local crisis centres through this link: http://suicideprevention.ca/need-help/

  1. Always remember that we can ask for help.

Wentworth Miller—who made no secret of his own shares of struggles with depression and suicide—urged the public to ask for help, suggesting to find a support group in their area by visiting the Anxiety and Depression Association of America at https://www.adaa.org/. He also added that if you or someone you know is in crisis, you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1800-273-TALK or text START to 741-741.

Miller concluded the aforementioned video with an appeal to the viewers. “Don’t be afraid to take the first step. Someone cares, and they are waiting to hear from you.”

This sentiment was echoed by Michelle Obama, the First Lady of the United States who said in an interview over at Prevention’s October 2016 issue that “asking for help is always a sign of strength.”

She explained further that “in order to change the culture’s negative perception around mental illness, parents need to stress the importance of psychological wellbeing to their children.”

“We need to teach our kids that mental illnesses are just like physical illnesses and deserve the same kind of care and compassion,” Michelle concluded.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Fantasy : Foot Fetish]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=13214 2016-09-22T17:30:51Z 2016-09-22T17:29:39Z tumblr_o43vrq4n4l1sigxz0o1_500Do you have a secret fantasy or fetish? The word ‘fetish’ is defined as “a form of sexual desire in..

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Do you have a secret fantasy or fetish? The word ‘fetish’ is defined as “a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked, to an abnormal degree, to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.” [source: Oxford Dictionaries]. Some people have a fetish for leather, some for hair, and for others, a fetish for feet.

To most people, well, feet are just feet—smelly, stinky, callous-y; but for some people, it could be the sexiest part of the body they can imagine—their biggest “turn-on.”

But why are certain people attracted to feet?

Why some people have a fetish for feet

Well, nobody really knows. Some suggest that it could simply be because the feet lead to the legs, and legs lead to the genitals. But whatever the reason, the feet, completed with its toes, nails, and sometimes even the shoes, still holds the number one spot in the ranking of most common fetishes. (It beats everything else!—in intensity and commonality.)

As do all forms of fetishes, having a “foot fetish” typically varies in different degrees, ranging from mild to wild. Some can enjoy just looking at a pair of beautiful-looking feet, but some can’t get enough of it—licking it, sucking it—to their heart’s content.

There are also those people who would madly enjoy a good “foot-job” but wouldn’t exactly prefer doing it to others.

How’s your fantasy foot fetish?

Hardwired versus Haywire – When fetishes get out of hand

Fantasy fetishes (though sometimes seen as taboo) are actually normal and common for many people. It is often a topic of very intimate conversations, often triggered by the question: So what turns you on?

In fact, anything can be a fetish for anyone. It can be an inanimate object (a medium—silk, fur—or something that holds form—stockings, panties)—or an animate entity or part of the body (for instance hands, shoulders, etc., or in this case, feet).

(Read more about the different types of fetishes here: Speak Out : What Are Your Fetishes?)

For the most part, fetishes don’t inherently hold any sensual characteristics whatsoever, but they essentially help trigger one’s arousal, setting the mood for sex by instantly turning you on.

But there are also the extreme, insane cases of uncontrolled fetishism like this one:

“a 35-year-old man…awaiting sentencing after confessing that his foot fetish led him to break into the homes of sleeping children so he could touch their feet.” [source: ABC News]

Get a grip of your fetish!

Ideally, a fetish is, and should, be pretty harmless. In sexual experiences, it ought to play a supporting role, not the lead part.

You can quite easily tell whether your fetish has already gone way out of control. For instance, if you find that you can no longer have a satisfying sex without it, then it obviously is already a problem. It could damage your relationship and sometimes, for some people, even result in aggressive behavior.

Basically, if your fetish (foot or what not) starts interfering with your life—your relationship, your work, your character—you must seek immediate help from a certified professional.

If a gay guy dumps his partner for someone else just because his second toe is a bit longer for his liking?—well, that certainly calls for some therapy!

Fetishes should help enhance one’s sexual experience, not ruin real intimacy.

On the other hand, if you find that you have quite a healthy sense of your (foot) fetish, just go with it—Whatever works for both you and your partner.

Everybody has got their “thing” anyways so explore and enjoy yours.

 

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Fantasy : Sex at The Office?]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=13176 2016-09-21T19:47:49Z 2016-09-21T19:47:49Z office sexPhoto : Grab Ass There’s something about the corporate environment that just makes it ripe for some illicit imaginings. Is..

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There’s something about the corporate environment that just makes it ripe for some illicit imaginings. Is it the sight of good-looking guys in suits that make you want to just strip it off of them and loosen their ties a little bit? Is it the thrill of bending your boss over and showing him exactly who calls the shots?

Whatever the reasons or the variations, it’s clear that office sex is a common enough fantasy for a lot of people. In fact, a 2014 study by the University of Quebec revealed that more than 80% of the men participating in the test fantasized about having sex in an unusual place such as the office. It’s so common that now, there’s even a new porn site that caters exclusively to this particular predilection – Grab Ass.

On the Grab Ass homepage, it bills itself as the source to see “the hottest studs wearing suits getting it on and fucking around the office”, and the previews on the site certainly seem to cover every conceivable office hanky-panky scenario.

Ever thought about fucking by the water cooler? How about giving a hand job while sipping your first coffee for the work day? Have you always wondered what you would have done if HR had asked you that this job would be yours if you got on your knees and sucked him off? Grab Ass probably has a video of that particular fantasy somewhere.

But moving away from fantasy, have any of you Adam4Adam regulars actually had sex in the office? Whom did you do it with? What so thrilling and titillating about it? Share your thoughts with us in the comments section below.

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[STDs : Drug-Resistant Gonorrhea, How to Fight It Off]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=13185 2016-09-20T15:44:14Z 2016-09-20T15:44:14Z gonorrheaImagine a world where gonorrhea treatment is no longer effective.  Doctors in the UK recently reported a case of drug-resistant..

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Imagine a world where gonorrhea treatment is no longer effective.  Doctors in the UK recently reported a case of drug-resistant gonorrhea that didn’t respond to what’s called “dual therapy” – giving the patient the prescribed doses of azithromycin and ceftriaxone, two of the medications most commonly used in the US and recommended by the CDC. The patient eventually was cured, but only after giving him a much higher dose, which also has its own implications on the patient.

 

The good news is that CDC monitors how fast gonorrhea is becoming resistant, and we have not yet seen any ”super bugs” that can’t be treated here the US.  But it is highly likely that drug-resistant gonorrhea is in our future.

 

More than 350,000 people are diagnosed with gonorrhea in the US each year. That’s just what’s reported: the CDC estimates that more than 800,000 new infections may actually occur each year. The rate of infections among gay men increased 20% between 2009 and 2013. The rate of resistance is also increasing: the levels of resistance of gonorrhea to azithromycin increased more than 300% between 2013 and 2014. It is evolving at a faster rate than drug companies are finding new drugs to treat it. As recently as 2006, CDC had five recommended treatment options. In the US, we now are down to one.

 

We are not in crisis mode, so don’t hit the panic button yet. Still, we should be in “prepare” mode, which could mean better use of prevention tools. Gonorrhea resistance to new drugs builds and grows. However, there aren’t many alternative drugs in the pipeline right now for gonorrhea. This will take some time, but in the meanwhile, it’s best to get tested every three months so you can get treated if you need it.

 

Important, little-known fact about testing: it is not enough to pee in a cup.  Gonorrhea can also infect your throat and your rectum.  In fact, most gonorrhea in gay men is missed if you just do urine testing.  It’s possible to have your urine test show no evidence of being infected with gonorrhea, even though you can still have an infection in your throat or rectum. Ask your doctor about getting your throat and rectum swabbed for gonorrhea and chlamydia testing.  Most people have no symptoms so the only way to know is to get tested.

 

If you don’t want to talk to your primary care doctor about your sex life, there are other places to get tested.  There are plenty of clinics that can test and treat you in a confidential and competent way. The CDC has a directory that is searchable by zip code at https://gettested.cdc.gov/.

 

For more information about drug-resistant gonorrhea, go to: http://www.cdc.gov/std/gonorrhea/arg/.

 

We’d like to hear from you: what has made it easy to ask your doctor about your sexual health needs?

Stephen Hicks

National Coalition of STD Directors

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[Movie : A First Look at Tom Ford’s Nocturnal Animals]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=13170 2016-09-19T18:35:16Z 2016-09-19T13:58:59Z tom-ford-amy-adams-afpPhoto Credits: Nocturnal Animals   Fresh from its Silver Lion Grand Jury Prize win at the recently concluded 2016 Venice..

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Photo Credits: Nocturnal Animals

 

Fresh from its Silver Lion Grand Jury Prize win at the recently concluded 2016 Venice Film Festival, Focus Features gave us the first glimpse of Tom Ford’s new drama thriller titled Nocturnal Animals.

In the movie, Academy Award nominees Amy Adams and Jake Gyllenhaal play a divorced couple who hasn’t been communicating with each other in years until one day, Susan (Adams’s character) receives a manuscript written by her ex husband, Tony (Gyllenhaal).

Tony used to call her nocturnal animal, a nickname which he also used as the title of his book.

While reading the story which she finds both violent and sad, Susan begins to wonder if the book is a thinly-veiled threat. And whether her ex-husband wrote it as a form of revenge for something she did when they were still married. In the trailer, Susan admits to someone else, “I did something horrible to him.”

The film is an adaptation to the 1993 novel Tony and Susan written by Austin Wright.

Curious? Watch the teaser below.

Nocturnal Animals is being showcased in a series of film festivals including the 2016 Venice Film Festival (last September 2, 2016) and the Toronto International Film Festival (screened last September 9, 2016). Another screening will be held at the London Film Festival on October 14 then it will officially open in selected cities on November 18. The film will reportedly be shown in additional cities on November 23 before hitting the theaters worldwide on December 9.

For the latest news on the film, check out its official website here.

Nocturnal Animals is Tom Ford’s second movie. The first one was released seven years earlier titled A Single Man.

In between the film screenings in Italy and Toronto not to mention the award acceptance last September 10 at the 73rd Venice Film Festival, Ford was also seen Wednesday night last week, September 7, in New York. He showcased his Fall/Winter 2016 collection at Manhattan’s Four Seasons Restaurant to a star-studded audience that included Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka, Cindy Crawford, Julianne Moore, Rita Ora, Zayn Malik, Uma Thurman, to name a few.

 

Tom Ford’s Fall/Winter 2016 collection was presented in a new format called “see-now, buy-now.” The formula is a departure from the norm because the shoppers get to buy the collection right away instead of waiting for the clothes’ availability at the stores which happens only a year after appearing on the runway.

With see-now-buy-now, customers can buy the clothes from said collection via an interactive video on tomford.com. Shoppers have the option to ‘save the look’ they want while watching so they can ‘view and shop’ later when they are done.

 

 

 

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Neal <![CDATA[Gay Stuff : Open Relationships & 3 Some]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=13180 2016-09-19T14:04:01Z 2016-09-16T15:41:14Z threesomePhoto : NextDoorRaw Greetings and Salutations to the A4A Blogosphere! Did you all miss me?  …didn’t think so. Anyways, we’ve had..

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Greetings and Salutations to the A4A Blogosphere! Did you all miss me?  …didn’t think so.

Anyways, we’ve had a busy few weeks here at the office and I simply haven’t had the time to write all of you. I decided that while my team was away in Europe drumming up new business, I am going to take advantage of some quiet time and write a bit about a topic that I’ve discussed/debated with friends for years : Open Relationships.

I’d bet my paycheque (or paycheck for our American friends reading) that all of you reading right now have an opinion, story, and experience to share with the rest of us! **Disclaimer, I ain’t offering up my pay so just forget it. I need to buy a new sofa and we’ll get into that subject on a later blog post, so just forget it!**

I’ve never had an open relationship – I think partly because of my own internalized insecurities that the guy I am dating will up and leave me for someone better. Being from farm country, the grass is always greener phrase takes on a whole new meaning for me. Anyways – the idea of my boyfriend screwing around with another guy is something I just can’t accept personally. Call me a prude, rolls your eyes to the back of your head, I don’t care. It is just how I feel.
That said – to give me some form of redemption here, I do have a mini story to tell about an experience I had roughly 10 years ago. I was invited out to a club with some friends, night was great, music was awesome and the boys were cute. After my 5th double jack & coke I was invited to an after party at some dudes place with a buddy of mine. I decided to go since it was close to the apartment I was living at the time, and I didn’t have to shell out the $15 on my own for the cab ride out of the downtown core. We arrive at the apartment and unknown dude (I can’t remember his name) promptly turns on, what he deemed “mood music” and offered us each a beer. I noted the apartment was a small bachelor with a teeny tiny bathroom to my right and a crap load of DVD’s on the floor and a messy double bed. The guys come around from the kitchen galley – they’re both shirtless (I wonder why since I found it a bit drafty), the next thing I know they’re playing tonsil hockey and pants are falling off. In stunned silence I lower myself to the floor and just sit there watching, mostly because the only exit to the room was being blocked by my friend and his boy-of-the-hour. They sure got into things good and heavy before they realized I hadn’t offered to jump in. I have to say that it was a mighty hot experience from a spectator standpoint but after they started getting hardcore into it, and the fact my drunk was wearing off… full on prude mode kicked in and I left faster than it took for the two of them to start stripping.

This was a defining moment in my sexual exploits because up until that point the only sex I had been privy to was my own. To bear witness to a friend and his trick getting it on had a certain air of eroticism that got me wondering if I would allow someone to witness me and a sexual partner sit and watch me getting it on.

So tell me gents – I want to see some stories about an experience with or without your significant other. Did someone watch? Did you post it online for the world to see? Share with us your arousing memories of past or present escapades in the comments section. Don’t forget to check out the hot scene featuring the newest addition to NextDoorRaw Ty Thomas, and veteran actors Jake Davis and Markie More here!

As usual – the best story in the comments section gets a 1 month FREE PASS to NextDoorRaw.com!

Cheers!

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Dave http://Adam4Adam.com%20 <![CDATA[News: Trump’s Family Benefits Plan Excludes Gay Men]]> https://www.adam4adam.com/blog/?p=13173 2016-09-16T14:54:11Z 2016-09-16T14:53:39Z ivankaDespite Republican presidential nominee Donald Trump touting himself as the LGBT community’s best choice for President of the United States,..

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Despite Republican presidential nominee Donald Trump touting himself as the LGBT community’s best choice for President of the United States, the campaign’s efforts at winning over the LGBT vote has consistently been sub-par.

For one, Trump and his running mate Mike Pence are running on a GOP platform that defines marriage as “between one man and one woman”. Pence also signed into law Indiana’s controversial Religious Freedom Law and personally believes in the effectiveness of conversion therapy. And now, the campaign’s “Family First” benefits plan is under fire for not including gay men or single-parent men.

In an interview with Cosmopolitan, Trump’s daughter Ivanka found herself on the defensive as she was asked to clarify regarding the plan’s exclusion of paternity leave. Ivanka is credited with coming up with the Trump campaign’s family policies.

While the plan would make expenses incurred because of child care tax deductible and ensure six months of maternity leave, the exclusion of paternity leave effectively discriminates against families with two gay male parents, or single fathers.

Ivanka initially tried to tout the advantages the plan would afford to same-sex couples, saying that there was “tremendous benefit” in allowing the mother to recover after childbirth and bond with her child. She also insisted that so long as the same-sex couple had legal married status under the tax code, the plan would “benefit the mother who has given birth to the child”.

Further prodding about the plan’s benefits for same-sex couples where the two parents are both men then had Ivanka referring the interviewer online to “go see all the elements of it.” The interviewer pressed even further, asking “So I just want to be clear, for same-sex adoption, where the two parents are both men, they would not be receiving special leave for that because they don’t need to recover or anything?”

Ivanka responded by saying “Well, those are your (the reporter) words, not mine. Those are your words. The plan, right now, is focusing on mothers, whether they be in same-sex marriages or not.” Ivanka then ended the interview abruptly, saying that she needed to “jump off”.

How do you guys feel about Trump’s “Family First” benefits plan? Do you feel that the exclusion of paternity leave is indeed a huge hole in the plan? Share your thoughts with us in the comments section below!

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