Dating: What Does Cheating Mean in 2018?
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What counts as cheating for you in this day and age?
We are asking because there’s this recently released study conducted by GMFA—a British gay men’s health charity—on cheating and the gay community.
The study found that 58% of the respondents have been cheated on by their partner while 52% admitted that they themselves have been unfaithful. In addition, 45% of the participants said their partners found out about the affair while 39% said that yes, they told their partner about it.
Interestingly, the respondents (there’s almost a thousand of them by the way) have varying perceptions as to what “infidelity” means to them. When asked to define the word, 79% said it is considered cheating if their boyfriend or partner engaged in anal sex. Other sexual acts that count as cheating included receiving or giving blow jobs at 76%, hand jobs (74%), and kissing (66%).
Do open relationships have rules as well? Yes, they do. Does the boyfriend have sex with the same guy only again and again? Does he bring him to their home? Does he not use condom when having sex with others? There are a lot of rules and if those were broken by either party, it means cheating, too (68%).
Using hookup apps when in a relationship is considered cheating according to 55% of the respondents. Other behaviors that made it to the list included sharing sexual images (43%), sending private messages (34%), and flirting (18%).
What are the effects of cheating? Well, breakup mostly as majority or 61% of the participants said yes, they’ll breakup with their partner if they were cheated on. Further, 57% said that cheating impacted their future relationships in the sense that others lost their confidence to please their partner while others had trust issues afterwards. What caught my attention the most however, is the fact that some of the respondents who got burned ended up being scared and unable to enter into a new relationship. The guys now instead prefer casual sex with strangers to avoid getting hurt again. Could this be the main reason why we fuck and go? How true is this for you?
Having said that, what about you? How do you define cheating? Have you been cheated on before? Or maybe the correct question is, “How many times have you been cheated on before?” Share with us your thoughts and stories in the comments section below.