Speak Out: On Masculine-Shaming
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Hey, guys! Have you ever been masculine-shamed? We are asking because we talked about feminine-shaming in the LGBT community in the past and we have yet to talk about masculine-shaming.
Just because we hear about feminine-shaming often it doesn’t mean masculine-shaming is nonexistent, right? In fact, when pro wrestler Mike Parrow came out recently he said in an interview, “I learned you can get very much masculine shamed in the gay community as of late, which is really weird, but it happens.”
He also said, “Gay men can be the meanest, cruelest people you’ve ever met in your life. I was ‘fat,’ I was ‘ugly,’ I’m a ‘closet case,’ and at the time I was just looking to understand what’s going on.” Parrow added that his personal experience had “put him further back in the closet than going forward.”
Some netizens were quick to say that masculine-shaming in the LGBT community is a “complete bullshit” because for as long as people can remember, gay men have valued (and quite highly at that) masculinity. Other words associated to masculinity and gay men were “obsessed” and “idolized.”
Results of a survey conducted by Attitude magazine way back in November seem to support this opinion. Said survey found that 71% of their respondents (5,000 in total) have found themselves “actively turned off by a prospective partner” due to their effeminate behavior indicating that indeed, masculinity is perceived greatly in the gay community.
That being said, did Parrow’s statement on masculine-shaming come as a surprise for you or is it something that you also experienced firsthand? If yes, how did masculine-shaming affect your life? What does it mean to be masculine-shamed as a gay man and did it also keep you in the closet the way it did to Parrow?
Thoughts? Share it with us in the comments section below.