Sexuality: How To Be A Better Bottom
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Everyone jokes about there never being any tops around, but the truth is a good bottom is hard to find. Most of you will agree that quantity doesn’t always mean quality.
Bottoming isn’t just you laying down or on all fours while the top plows you. It’s more than that, and we here at Adam4Adam are always here to help, especially to all the guys out there just discovering all the wonders of gay sex. Here are some tips that will start you on the road to be the best bottom that you can possibly be.
Clean is always in!
it’s always best to start with a clean workspace, and that includes your ass. We don’t mean shaving down there, especially if that isn’t what you or your partner are into. What we do mean is taking a shower beforehand and douching, especially if you don’t have the most fiber-rich diet. You want sex to be dirty, but not that dirty.
Talk about it beforehand.
If particular types of porn is to be believed, all a top really wants is a bottom to fling around like a rag doll. But that’s only fun for the top if that’s what the bottom wants. Believe it or not, the best way to please a top is to tell him how to best please you. If your top knows that those moans and groans are genuine, and that he caused it, it’s an ego boost that’ll have him coming back for more.
Get to grooming.
This goes hand in hand with our first two tips. We don’t mean getting rid of all your hair down there — unless of course that’s what you’re both into. That’s the main thing. Find out what you guys are both into, and groom yourself accordingly. Bushy or bare, trimmed or totally overgrown, it’s all good as long as you both agree on it.
It doesn’t have to hurt.
One thing that does put off some guys from bottoming is the perception that it hurts, and there is some truth to that. But it doesn’t have to be a painful experience, especially if you talk about it beforehand with your partner. If your tighter than most guys, or if you find that curved dicks really hit your walls in an uncomfortable way, tell this to your partner so they can adjust.
For your part, you need to know how to eliminate pain if it does happen, and more often than not it involves relaxation. Do some breathing exercises and learn how to work your muscles down there. That way it won’t be so much him forcing himself in but you letting him in you.
Pick a position.
Part of the process towards being a better bottom is picking a position that works best for you. If you’re a little more sensitive down there than most folks, cowboy may be the best as you’re generally in control of how much dick you’re taking. Like it rough? Doing it doggy style or missionary gives him a lot of control, and is great if you like being dominated or demeaned.
These are just some of the tips we can give, because for sure the more worldly Adam4Adam have tips and tricks of their own. Have you been told you’re a great bottom? Share what you know in the comments section below!