Speak Out : Rejection On Dating Sites
Rejection is something we deal with every day. What we need to do is learn to deal with it and not take it so personally.
Let’s say you are cruising on line and you come across Mr. Right Now. You read his profile and it’s like he was looking for you all this time. You read more and are sure he is talking about you. You send him an email and wait, very sure he will read your profile and get back to you. You wait and wait and wait.
Finally you see he has looked at your profile, read your email and still hasn’t responded. You wait a little while longer until you see he has deleted your email.
Now, obviously this guy wants nothing to do with you. You take this personally, tell yourself this site sucks, all the men are losers, blah blah blah.
Natural reaction but not the only one. It is us who puts the personal touch to these emails. To the other person it is just an email from a stranger looking for something. To us it’s an invitation to meet up with a really great guy (you). Don’t take the rejection personally.
There could be any number of reasons why this guy didn’t respond but it’s not your job to figure out why. Move on to the next one and see what happens. You never know, you could be sitting there one day looking around and the same guy might send you an email saying hello. Should you bring up that you sent him one earlier and he deleted it? Probably not, a lot of guys don’t take this on line thing very seriously.
Remember, rejection happens every day, we reject and we get rejected. Try not to take it too seriously and personally when it comes to online dating/sex sites. Not everyone is looking for the same thing at the same time.