Speak Out : Gay Friendship…
Hi, guys, it’s Friday…hope you had a wonderful week and I’d like to wish you all an amazing weekend!
Today I want to talk about something that I always had problem with, gay friendship.
When I was a kid, I ONLY had girl friends. I had no connection with guys at all. And then I started being bullied because I was hanging out with girls only, and acting like one of them, and my girls were (almost) always there to defend me even though they didn’t even know I was gay yet.
Years later, I continued this pattern. I only got connections with girls for friendship. Guys were for sex or for dating. And I had no straight guy friends. Recently (4 years ago) I started having gay guy friends when I broke up with my ex.
To be honest, I’m not sure that my gay friends are my best friends. Why? I feel like gay friendship is always a bit fake or ambiguous. Whether we are friends for parties, for pride festivities, for drinks and dinners or traveling, or fuckbuddies. I feel that we never have real deep conversations, genuine love, honesty etc. We rarely share private things like I did with my girlfriends. My girlfriends know everything about me. From what I ate for lunch, to my last hookup, my family, they even come with me at the doctor to get results for STI and so on. I don’t get this connection with guys. Why? Am I alone in this situation? Is this normal?