Gay Stuff : Friend Or Lover?
You meet this guy at the gym, seems like a nice guy. Single, good looking, intelligent. You chat, work out together and eventually become friends.
Neither one of you seem to want to take it any further than a workout buddy kind of thing. During this time you meet someone and as it would turn out you start dating. You post some pictures of you and the new guy on your Facebook wall and think nothing of it. The next time you go to the gym you see your workout buddy and walk up to him. Instead of the regular buddy chat he seems cold and uninterested in anything you have to say.
You ask him what’s up. He mentions your post of the pictures. You look at him confused. He asks if he needs to spell it out for you. You nod. He says he thought you and he were working towards becoming more than workout buddies.
Now, some of us don’t read minds but we can read body language. If you develop one type of relationship with someone and neither one of you seem to want to take it any further then how is the other supposed to know what you are thinking. This happens quite often when guys keep their intentions to themselves and miss out on what could be a great opportunity.
If you like someone take the chance and let them know. Don’t expect guys to pick up on your little clues, be direct and see what happens. Maybe you aren’t the only one feeling the attraction.
I recently started dating a great guy. I was out not too long ago and this guy I chatted with a few times came up to me and asked me where I had been. I told him about this new guy and he looked kind of sad. I asked what was up. He said had he known I was looking to date someone he would have asked me out. I told him he should have said something. His answer to me: you could have asked me out as well. I think I made the right choice.