Gay Stuff : Going Solo
Of all the images we associate with “good life”, living by ourselves is not usually one of them. Being “alone” from what we’ve been told, is when things go south… Traditionally we pity a single person, people think that a single person is “less than” is “lacking” is “suspect”, “psychopathic”, “sad”. People will say of a single guy that he is too immature, too selfish, too this ,too that…but is it fair? Isn’t living alone let you control your life totally?
In Canada, there is now more single people than couples living with children. In major US cities more than half the population is living on their own. Singles are now dictating the way housing should be, the way food has to be packaged, traveling packages etc.
Many advantages come with living alone : never having to compromise, it gives you time to develop more of yourself, you can have a more elaborated social life (parties, clubbing, sports), personal satisfaction, fulfilment, you can meet anyone at any time you want to and all of this gives many singles the appreciation of being single.
Another driver of “living alone” is the communication revolution. Dating websites like A4A, and even the apps ( iOS, Android), Facebook, Twitter, emails, text messages, Skype etc. We have tremendous capacity to be home alone but actively social and connected with other people.
Of course there are also disadvantages of being single. Being in a couple brings you richness, you can also share, feel understood, feel loved. You can also benefit from better finances, pairing up was also proven to help against depression because when you are single you can get lonely and isolated.
But in 2013, being single is not something bad! It’s a decision people are taking for themselves, to have a better quality of life.
What do you think about it? Are you single? By choice? Divorced? How is it?