A4A: What’s in a Profile?
Tall, short, skinny, fat, hung or not, there is someone for everyone! But as in all sales, success in hooking up online is all about how you market the product – if you are on Adam4Adam and looking for love or a sexual encounter, you are the product and good marketing makes the difference!
Here are some helpful hints, following them can help you find exactly what you are looking for (and find who is looking for you!).
Before you fill out (or make changes to) your profile it will be helpful if you have a clear idea of what you are looking for. Being versatile is great, but being unclear in your intentions in your profile, especial when you are not sure yourself, is not good marketing and does not help you find what you really want or attract men that might be interested in you.
Start with a clear, catchy headline! Headlines like “Hey guys” or “Checking thing out” are not catchy and do not provide any useful information. They are not a good first impression. A headline like “Seeking fun and adventure” or “One of the good guys” says just enough to give an impression of who you are and to entice the reader.
Are you online for a NSA encounter? Then say that clearly and then focus your text on the physical traits that you want your sex partner to have. Be clear on what you want to do and the type of person you want to do it with.
Saying that you are looking for a hot man, or a good looking man, does not say much. Get specific and describe what a hot man is to you. Is he short, tall, a bear, a twink, athletic, dark, blonde, hairless…? Is he over 30, between 24-40? How important is his penis size? If it matters then say so, if it is unimportant then say that as well.
When you talk about what you want to do sexually get specific. Describing yourself as top, bottom or versatile is a start, but as a top do you also like to give head? As a bottom, do you also like to get a good blow job? Going beyond top, bottom, versatile and being very specific about exactly what you want to do sexually can ensure that you get what you are looking for.
Men are very visual making the pictures you post very important. If you are looking for a hook up then go for broke and show as much as you are comfortable showing online. If you are on the site for sex, then showing your dick and/or your ass lets members know that you are all about sex, having a face pic ready and locked will help you to finalize the session.
If you are looking for a romantic encounter or an LTR then you might want to show your face as your primary pic, and keep the rest of your pics PG-17 or R and reveal more in person. X-rated pics will get more hits, but if you are looking for romance or something more then a quick fuck, being discrete and going for quality over quantity is your goal so many quick ‘hits’ are not as helpful as accurate ‘hits’ from the right guys.
No matter what you are looking for, telling the truth about yourself and what you are looking for is always a winner. It does not take long to build a reputation online, liars and scammers are found out pretty quickly.
Whatever your goal online be sure to always be safe, for tips on how best to be safe online, check out our safety tips.